But if the choice, then, is to live in California and not have kids versus living in Texas and being about to have kids, than I guess I'll never be a father.
That's fine, as long as you recognize that is your choice. "mullingitover" had the thesis that freedom doesn't really have anything to do with not having a family, that it's entirely related to expenses. But not having a family /is/ related to freedom: he values the freedom to live in California more than being able to afford a family while living somewhere else.
