I wouldn't try and argue with someone who retorts to stress by asking you whether you work more than 40 hours a week, which is like telling a foie gras goose that actually it spends less time a day eating than most other poultry.
A while ago, I would have agreed. I've long since learned that the reason our industry has the management problems it has because we don't prepare people for leadership. At all. We just throw them in the grinder and hope it works out.
This means there are a lot of people who see stress and work that way because they don't know any better. A lot of people who think it's "manager vs. team". I can't cure that by myself, but as long as I can offer nudges to rethink that, I will.
Like almost every systemic problem, it only gets fixed if a large number of us keeps trying to fix it. (That said, I certainly get being tired of trying to :)
