What's holding them back though? Yeah people work a lot today, but they still do have free time. They spend all that time dating? Gaming? Family? Spending time with family is healthy , but, all the free time ? that s too much, and it was probably never like that in history (at least for men). Men spend 0 time in former male spaces too. And finding hobbies you dont like just as an excuse to meet people feels forced and fake. Modern city lifestyle is hostile to friendships.