Snow Crash is a loving parody of the cyberpunk genre. Everything is way over the top. Every trope is turned up to 11. When you look at it that way, you'll see why it comes across as childish (and in many ways, it is).
I read Marooned in Real Time, and was disappointed, as with everything else I've read by him. By now, I think I've given both Vinge and Egan enough of a chance.
I'll check out Diamond Age, however, as I'm a fan of nanotech and am interested in how far scifi can push it.