The site is slow as hell. I've been waiting for 3 minutes and haven't had results.

Vibe coders don't understand concepts such as: indexing, caching, deduping, memoization, profiling, Big O, N+1 queries, lazy loading, connection pooling, pagination, re-render management, layout thrashing, virtualization, debouncing, code splitting, memory leaks, garbage collection, streaming vs. buffering, async parallelism, main thread blocking, race conditions, backpressure, request waterfalls, payload optimization, batching, round-trip costs, cache invalidation, hot path analysis, data structure selection, and countless other concepts related to performance."

That's exactly what I was going to say.

I use github issues and projects.

Here is what I will say as a person with a similar situation. We're not dumb, there is just something in our way. Whether that be anxiety to look dumb or something else. My best advice is don't try to be quick, take your time, formulate a thought and own it. That will make you feel less bad about this perceived negative trait.

I will say a few things. When things like giving up alchohol happen your brain will do a lot of things to trick back into the drug. Like, for example, making the things you previously enjoyed seem not fun or fulfilling like they used to, all a ploy to get you back on the drink. I'm not an expert.

Speaking from experience the number one thing that gave me purpose in life is kids. There is nothing more purposeful that having something that you love more than yourself. I tell everyone this and I understand that you may not agree. Having kids is the greatest thing you will ever do. When you're 60 sitting at home you're going to wish you would have had them.

Non-kid suggestions would be start a project, that you can feel ownership over. You own it and make something of it. You are responsible for its success or failure. Again, I'm no expert.

"Having kids is the greatest thing you will ever do" is a binary "True" in a probabilistic world, so almost guaranteed to be wrong for a large number of cases.

Having kids is not for everyone, and even for those people who have them, as probabilities dictate, might be the worst thing you will ever do and everything in between.

My dad is over 60 and he is rarely home because he travels a lot for work. Just like he always has. I'm not going to ask him because I don't want to know the answer, but part of me is doubtful that he would claim me or my brothers as the greatest thing he's done in life.

I once dated a woman who was on her own journey to find meaning I think. I told her I had never really had an interest in children, but she seemed skeptical, and assumed I would eventually, but said that she never would. I would eventually learn that she was married with children.

I will say my energy levels have seriously increased in the last few years and I 100% think it is because I have stopped working out as much. When I worked out a lot I felt like I had a lot more energy and I have noticed similar things from other people.

Also possible you weren't doing as much to manage recovery and protein synthesis as you could. I would be too sedentary if I didn't workout.

Your comment is contradicting itself. You’re saying you had a lot more when you worked out a lot and the same now you don’t, which is it?

Are you saying you gained more energy by working out, or do you feel more energetic now that your workouts are less intense/long and more balanced?

That seems bad for business.

Yes. They did this at my company and no one that reapplied was hired.

I would say that flutter is an emerging technology. Cross platform, it runs natively on ios and android plus a bonus of the browser and desktop.

https://flutter.dev/

And additionally, Flet (basically a Flutter wrapper) if you know Python

https://flet.dev

Thanks - I have been keeping an eye on flet. I think it still is a way from being ready for prod mobile app but happy to see it progress.

Semi relatable. Marshawn Lynch "Beast Mode" of the seattle seahawks said that he would take a shot or two before the games to calm his nerves and things just flow.

professional baseball has its amphetamine era too. honestly a shot or two seems logical far as pain management goes - but ibuprofen could potentially be comparable