I've been through a similar phase. Cutting down on the things you don't feel like doing is already a good first step.
Then, like many have commented already, it always helps to find a group of people to talk to and to do so some activities with them. It doesn't have to be an ongoing everyday intensive meetups, chatting, and activities. But finding people with whom you have common interests does help a lot in sparking ideas, inspiring you to figure new things out, challenging you to get out of your comfort zone, and eventually to figure know yourself better and what you like to do.
When I was in your situation, I was already on twitter, and my behavior reflected in a way where I was constantly picking fights with everyone. When I took a step back, and did some introspection, I noticed that I was being unnecessarily aggressive because I was frustrated.
So I changed the way I used twitter, and this helped me meet like minded people, some of whom I got the chance to meet in person, and many others with whom I connected virtually.
The opportunities are endless, and it doesn't have to be an in-person group. All it takes is to find what your interests are, and to look for other nice people who share the same interests as you. With time you'll grow, learn new things, and feel more satisfied. Hope this helps. Mucho ánimo.
I am an ex-academic. I quit my teaching job at university for many, many reasons. By a lucky strike I found myself teaching philosophy solo online. All thanks to twitter. I have been doing this since June 2020. It's been my primary source of income so far.
It is my 'dream job' insofar as I love teaching philosophy. It isn't, however, an ideal situation. This is because at any point in time registrations for my synchronous courses might dry up.
So I have been trying to diversify my income streams too. But it's quite difficult to do so when I was a rusty academic for 7 years. The past two years were a learning experience on all fronts.
I was not sure I could actually contribute to hacker news, newbie here. So still learning the ropes, and it seems that it is not limited to tech jobs, posts, or news.
Where do I head from here? I wish I knew. The ride has been interesting though. The only reason I'm responding is because of your nickname. So, curious to hear back! Thanks!
I have the same issue as well. However, after deep reflection I realized that I am not proactive in certain situations and under particular circumstances.
For example: I worked with a boss who was a micromanager. When I was first hired I was enthusiastic and ready to grab the bull by the horns. Yet, a few months into the job I simply sat back and did nothing.
On the other hand, when I find an intrinsic motivation (Daniel Vassallo talks about this), I become automatically proactive.
What I'm trying to say is, do some reflection. Are you not proactive because you're simply not motivated enough due to externa or internal reasons? Or are you not proactive because of other factors? This might give you insight into how to tackle the issue.
On the other hand, ask yourself this question: why should you be proactive? Is it an end in itself, or instrumental? If there's no goal that motivates to become proactive then is it really important to be one?
Thank you. Yes I think it is something to do with a combination of a lack of motivation and a lack of self belief. If I see something that needs doing, I don't believe in my abilities to address it and so I just let it slide because I assume someone more qualified will deal with it.
I feel you. Been there. Takes time. Check out Garyvee's videos. He's really good! Knowing one's limits (aka self-awareness) is a good first step to overcoming this situation.
